It’s frequently been argued that men and women speak two completely different languages.

As smart, modern women we know the dangers of “negging,” i.e.

the idea of actively knocking somebody’s confidence so she’ll be more open to romantic advances.

Woman shocked by what man is saying

The Independentnotes it’s incredibly dodgy behavior that should send any woman running.

However, as dating expert and matchmaker Alex Mellor-Brook clarified, sometimes it can be tough to spot negs.

However, what happens when the comment in question actually reads like a compliment on the surface?

Man is frustrated with woman

At first glance, it seems kind of nice, because the idea is that you’re special.

However, glimpse just underneath the surface and the implications are pretty worrying.

As Ali wondered aloud, “What’s wrong with other girls?”