For a long time, Carrie and Big were the It couple on TV.
One thing they always delivered on was the drama.
Just when you thought everything was rosy for Carrie and Big, they’d get into another fight.
But, of course, soon enough, they would get back together again.
This on-again, off-again couple definitely kept us on our toes.
Way back when Carrie was still a brunette, she met Big afterbumpinginto him on the street.
Almost immediately, a power imbalance is established.
Big is flirtatious and confident.
He tells her, “I get it, you’ve never been in love.”
Her voiceover chimes in: “Suddenly, I felt the wind knocked out of me.
I wanted to crawl under the covers and go right to sleep.”
When he tells her with a smirk hehasbeen in love, her face says it all.
Big introduces Carrie to a friend at a party as “someone very special.”
The friend mistakes her for someone named Julia.
Carrie instantly becomes frosty while Big becomes defensive and aggressive.
“How many women are you dating?”
“In the tri-state area?”
he asks with a smirk.
When Carrie tries to interrogate him further, he says, “I’m not doing this here.”
Carrie replies sadly, “Nothing.
I don’t want anything from you.”
In this scene, both Carrie and Big fail to communicate what they actually want.
When sheconfessesto Big, she reveals just how insecure she is about the relationship.
Of course, she isn’t the only one to blame.
Thomas explains that Big should have given her more reassurance and told her about his ex-wife sooner.
Essentially, this scene proves that Carrie is insecure and Big’s nonchalance does nothing to help!
Of course, Carrie is not famous for being secure!
So, naturally, she totally freaks out when she farts in front of Big.
“All I could think was, ‘Why aren’t we having sex?
Where are we going?'”
If only she had been honest with him about how she was feeling!
Of course, because Carrie likes him so much, she ignores the red flags.
Big looks at her sadly and says nothing.
Of course, this happens all the time in real life.
In my practice, that’s what happens about 50% of the time."
Still, therapist Ieshai Bailey added that responding with anger was definitely not the right reaction.
Naturally, Carrie provided an example of what not to do.
Instead of staying calm, she let her anxiety bubble up inside her.
Unfortunately, Carrie had already spent the night sleeping next to another man!
If only these two actually communicated, none of this would have happened.
And this is definitely an instance of classic Big ambivalence!
Carrie and Bighave a bittersweet conversationjust after his engagement party.
“Why wasn’t it me?”
He only replies, “I don’t know.
It just got so hard.
And she’s …” As Carrie walks away, she sees an out-of-control horse.
Her voiceover says, “Maybe the problem was he couldn’t break me.”
In other words, Carrie is left feeling that she was too wild to be marriage material.
Carrie became the other woman when Big married Natasha
Nothing screams “toxic relationship” like cheating.
After all, Carrie was also in a relationship with Aidan at the time!
When Charlotte found out about the affair, Carrietried to explain herself.
“It was a force bigger than me, like Niagara Falls or something, you know?”
“No, I don’t know.
He’s married,” replies Charlotte coldly.
Carrie tries to explain that she did think about Natasha.
You don’t think about her."
We have to say in this instance, Charlotte was totally right.
In Season 6, Carrie decides to move to Paris with Aleksandr.
Right before the move, Big turns up at her house to have a go at win her back.
But this time, Carrieputs her foot down.
“You do this every time every time,” she yells.
“What, do you have some kind of radar?
“Even after 6 years, Big expects to hold power over Carrie.
As far as we’re concerned, this scene would have been the perfect ending for this couple!
Hefinds her cryingon the floor of her hotel after being hit by Aleksandr.
Big storms off to go “kicking some Russian a**” despite Carrie’s pleas.
“I don’t need you to rescue me,” she shouts.
Of course, the pair eventually end up on a picturesque Parisian bridge where they get their happy ending.
Talk about an imbalance in power!
If this ending left you with a bitter taste in your mouth, you aren’t alone.
And, Darren Star, the show’s creator, was also unhappy seeing Carrie and Big together.
Of course, Bigrealized, too late, that he was making a mistake.
If that doesn’t sum up Big’s entire relationship with Carrie, we don’t know what does!
“I knew you would do this.
I knew it!”
she screams at him, hitting him with her bouquet.
Of course, later in the film, Carrie forgives Big and the pair get married.
No scene demonstrates this more than the fallout of Carrie cheating on Big with her ex-boyfriend Aidan.
We have to say, this is a really bizarre way to resolve cheating in a marriage.
Even actor Chris Noth wasn’t happy with the scene.
But even from beyond the grave, he and Carrie still have a few unresolved issues.
And after decades of marriage, it seems that Carrie isstillriddled with insecurities about their relationship.
After stalking Natasha online and in person, Carrie finallyspeaks to herto her about the will.
Asnumerousviewersof the show have pointed out, Carrie is still demonstrating toxic behaviors even after Big’s death.
Apparently, some things never change
